Do you believe that our ability as humans with medicine has gone farther then it should go? I read this article today about a woman, 72 years old, who underwent IVF treatment to bring a ‘male heir’ into her family and gave birth to twins-one girl, one boy. She is Indian and her family mortgaged their land, sold their animals, and took out credit cards for this venture. They currently have 2 adult children and 5 grandchildren already. The father is 75 years old.
I just don’t get it.
I love how they are modern enough to seek out IVF treatment at 70 years old, but not modern enough to accept their female daughters as their “heirs”. What the hell are they going to leave behind for them to “inherit” anyway…they mortgaged and sold everything off. The irony.
To top it off, the babies were born premature and only 2 pounds a piece. They are expected to make it, but what kind of life are they going to live when their parents will most likely die before they are grown and married on their own. Ah hell, they could die at anytime. 72 and 75 years old are no spring chickens. Its a fact that having children over 35 (OMG, IM ALREADY 30) carry a higher risk for the unborn child AND the mother. And 70? What point did she not say, hey, im 40……..50……..60………and want another child? She waited till she was over 70 years old?
I just find the whole thing terribly sad.
Other women having kids older
- 67 year old woman gives birth to twins
- 60 year old Jersey Mom Gives birth to twins
- 62 year old woman gives birth
- 56 year old surrogate mom gives birth to triplets
How do you feel about it? When should women just stop trying to get pregnant?
~Trisha
So, in essence, this woman and her husband have given birth to a child that other people will have to raise. Great! and amazingly selfish. The doctors should not be allowed to practice. Leave these “choices” to God who decided that this couple should be childless.
Man all I can say is…I wish I left my parents when I was 13, but unfortunately I had to wait a tad bit longer.
Yikes, can you imagine how terrible that pregnancy must have been for the 72 year old mother? It about killed me at 25, and I wasn’t having twins!
I don’t think women that old should be having babies. It is unfair to the children to have a 75 year old mom who could die any day. Plus, there could be many things wrong with the children that go along with pregnancy at old age.
If it was so important to carry on the family name or have a mail heir, you’d think they would have started worrying about it FAR before they were in their 70′s. This is just plain weird to me, and I feel sorry that the babies will not grow up with their mom and dad.
I could see being a surrogate for your daughter/son if they could not have children of their own, but having a baby at that age just seems selfish!!!
Just because you CAN doesn’t mean you SHOULD. The fact that IVF was used should be a clue that the human body is not meant to have babies that late in life.
This wasn’t some “miracle pregnancy”. This was two people deciding that THE most important thing was getting a baby boy. I’m sorry, but as a woman, I have a really hard time with that. I enjoy learning about other cultures and value and respect others. I won’t demonize their choice, it doesn’t affect me in the long run, but what kind of message does this send to other women in India and the world at large? That women are ONLY of value as long as they can produce a MALE hier? What does this say to their daughters and grandaughters? that they don’t count?
Please don’t think me insensitive, we have plenty of adoptions in our families and I’ve seen more than one close family member struggle with infertility. I am thankful everyday that I was able to birth two healthy children of my own. But personally, I don’t really support IVF. I’m sorry if that offends you, comment reader, it’s not a personal attack on those who have used it successfully. I just think doctors have overstepped their bounds here (and in other areas of medicine). Talk about playing God…
I would buy that argument if they had NO kids…but they had 2 grown adult kids and 5 grandchildren. They were by no means suffering with no children, and 72 is extremely elderly by any definition.
And Im a bit confused on the “how long do u guys take care of ur children…by the age of 13 they leave u all and have their own lives”
Kids in america are kids till they are 18 years old and do not leave till they are of that age, its not 13.
I think you are also sadly misinformed that the majority of children go to foster care. Foster care is reserved for families that either cannot care for their children or children in dangerous situations, and do not encompass the majority of an everyday American, but rather a sad reality of SOME childrens lives. And we are lucky to have a foster care system in this country for children that do need it.
IN fact, on our board, we have several foster care mothers that love and care for children why they find stable homes.