How stupid. I have to tell yall….a few months ago, I “met” a blogger online and I did like her, I really did. I asked her to blog with a group debate blog that I had. She said yes..and like a day later, her sister asks to blog with us. I had no problem w/ that, but the first blogger said she would NOT blog with us if her sister did. They both had blogs, and she wanted to be separate from her…she was sick of her sister following her around, etc. So being the nice person I am, I told the 2nd sister we had too many bloggers, I really didn’t need sister drama, kwim? I should have realized there I was dealing with some extremely immature people…sometimes my 30 year old brain works slow, I’m bad at trusting people quickly. Its a downfall of mine.
Anyhow, we chatted on the phone and I really liked her for the most part. She was constantly complaining about a blogging group she was in, and her sister stealing her “contacts” out of her email, all of this stuff….and I let her vent, who cares, it wasn’t my drama and it WAS quite funny. She then invited me to blog on HER blog, which I did as a guest. I took the time to find some contests and really get involved and then her sister piped up that I was “taking over” the blog (haha, i put up, like 5 posts? LOL), so I decided to open THIS blog separately and came up with a name, concept, etc and invited the 1st girl to assist me. She got upset when I opened it up to other bloggers and refused to participate. No problem. I am old enough to know that life isn’t about ME. I want to help OTHERS succeed.
I want to be a PART of a group. I am not stuck on “This is mine, its all mine”, its OURS as a group. I could NOT run this blog without the assistance of a LOT of people (toni, alicia, heather, bridgette, and erin)…I currently have five people that assist me and I hope to have more in the future (begging laurie and kailani right now) We do it for fun, not for profit.
Well, during our course of talking, this blogger had a lot of huge giveaways and it occurred to me…could someone FAKE a giveaway. I learned from this blogger that she NEVER picks a random person, and as soon as she told me that, I realized, omg, bloggers could be doing giveaways and giving them to their FRIENDS or KEEPING THEM! How naive have I been!! She told me of her sister giving them out to her friends and how they exchange stuff, or pick specific blogger buddies. Its honestly not that shocking. She isn’t someone I could ever associate with in real life and most certainly not online, and we do not talk anymore. But the funniest part is, I wake up today, and someone calls me and say that I was BLOGGED about.
She blogged about me asking that question on what “kind of person” would ask ”if bloggers fake giveaways” (*raising hands, me!)…well, the one who just listened to you tell me that you give your prizes to your friends. LOL! I know this comes because we have about $4500 worth of prizes for our launch and she is jealous, but we have been working our BUTTS off around here!
In fact, here is a photo of my desk…check the sponsor spreadsheets. This was the only way we could keep this organized. Thats EIGHT PAGES for August listing our contacts, emails, website, gift and value of gift on each page.
The Now and Ethics:
First of all, I went to college and have a BA In Criminology and a year of Paralegal school. I am about the most honest person you will meet (minus that whole high school incident)…my entire life has been associated with studying CRIME. I have worked for Dayton-Hudson in security cameras (target) and then when I left that field, I worked in the education field where I signed people up for medical and legal classes. I also run an online business, and I would venture to say 10% of you have been to my site or bought from me, and you already know how serious I take my business- I bring the same courtesy here.. I wanted to make clear that THIS site does not fake giveaways….nor will we be passing out prizes to blogging “friends”. In fact, I am a forum girl, so I don’t really have that many blogging people I know well (yet-trying to get to know YOU!). And yes, we WILL have contests where I pick the winner who gives me the best answer, but you will KNOW that so you can provide the best or most creative answer, but the majority of MomDots contests will be done by Random.Org with lots of oppurtunities to enter.
We list our sponsors on the side and any one of our companies would vouch that not only are they providing us with a giveaway, but that we have asked them to HOLD ONTO THEIR PRIZES so we do not come into contact with them personally. We do not have items sent to us unless its for a review, but instead, ask all the companies to keep it until they are given contact info. After we have a winner, we ask them to join the forum or email the momdot email address and we then email the company and the person together in the same email and intro them to each other to take care of their exchange. We have opened a forum so we know for sure that our winners have received their items and the companies have followed through on their giveaways and that our users can interact with each other and provide information on how that giveaway went. Additionally, its our responsibility to make sure if someone won something, that they get what they were told they won, so we believe its professional to have a follow up system to make sure all gifts were recieved.
We have checks and balances on MomDot, and work with people we know AND new people we just met, so we can all keep each other accountable, check the spreadsheets, and make sure that this site continues to give Moms out there the best in Blogging, Boutiques, Reviews, and Contests! Rest assured, I don’t believe the majority of bloggers take their prizes and keep them, but there will always be a small percentage that gets into it just for that.
We had SO many sponsors for our giveaways and I posed this question, that one one sponsor who offered six of an item, I specifically asked her if I could give three of those to MomDot Team Members for their hard work and do a giveaway for 3 of them, and she said yes. Please know that every effort will be done to check and double check that the person who won, did it fairly, and the person we give it to, we are not affiliated with (as a team member) unless it has been approved by a sponsor. We do allow our forum Moderators to enter their blogs into blog contests, because they do not actually write or come into contact with any sponsors, they are only for assisting bloggers with questions on the forum on “how tos” on their pages, and putting up fun content.
I also wanted to mention that MomDot does all of this for free. Yes, we do have paid advertising for front page 125/125 ads for those NOT sponsoring contests, but its very minimal and with three people working on this blog, we may make 2cents an hour if someone buys one..not glamorous.
Its all for the LOOOOOOOOVE.
ps i thought i left the drama behind in the forum.
pss our site is not about contests, btw..its about the bloggers. We are just lucky enough to score some fun giveaways for all your help in supporting us. There is no way on this great earth we can give away 5K worth of stuff monthly..its been very, very time consuming.