Ask The Mom

Welcome back to another week of Q&A from The Mom. Pushing my own issues to the side for my fellow blogger friends in need. Remember my license to practice therapy came from my Cocoa Puffs box, but if you trust me with your problems, I’ll do my best to fake it answer them!

My oldest, is 7 and in 2nd grade. For the passed couple of weeks now she has been asking weird questions that I’m not sure how to answer. Last week I heard her say and I quote *i can’t wait until I get titties* yes, she said *titties*! And then this week she came home from school asking me if she’s gonna get her periods when she turns 8! Wth!? I guess there’s another girl on the bus telling her stuff like this. All I could tell her was to stop listening to that girl. I don’t know what to say or do. Help! Sounds like you’re on the right track. The girl on the bus sounds a bit precocious and probably has a very ‘open’ mother or big sister. If it were me, I would mention that when we talk about our bodies, we use terms like ‘breasts’ or even ‘boobs’ and we keep that private. As far as getting a period at age 8 (GASP! The Horror!!), it can happen, but is rare. Like you mentioned, let your daughter know that this is all inappropriate items of discussion and that she should maybe sit by another friend on the bus. If it continues, contact the bus driver or the other child’s teacher.

My husband and I get a whole day to ourselves in a few weeks, what should we do? Fun! Well if you read Miss Behavin’s posts here, I’m sure she’s got a few gadgets and ideas for you….but since you asked me, here’s what I have. Hubby and I love to go to the movies together, so usually a nice dinner out and a movie works for us. For the sportier crowd, take in a local ball game or go bowling! Nothing says love like a little competition! If you’re a wine drinker, splurge a little and rent a limo and go wine tasting. Pack a picnic lunch to enjoy at one of the stops and enjoy yourselves.

Why don’t I buy fresh flowers more often, Jen? They are so pretty and I enjoy them so much. Is it because I am waiting for my husband to buy them for me? Are they only any good if they are from him? I ask myself this same question! I really enjoy fresh flowers as well and my husband NEVER buys them for me. Some sob story about killing them then they die, he’s more of a plant guy that we can water, and nurture, and see grow. Yadda yadda, momma wants me some ROSES! Buy some for yourself, and if anyone asks say they’re from your hubby. A little white lie won’t hurt anyone.

Is it possible to survive on only 5 hours of sleep every day? Absolutely not. It will definitely catch up to you and people will think you’re headed on vacation with all the bags under your eyes!

The economy is HORRIBLE, I’m already freaking out about Christmas and my kids have lists that are long and expensive. What can I do so that they’re happy and we don’t spend a fortune? AHH, thanks for the reminder that Christmas is around the corner! Well short of winning the lottery or taking a second job, times are tough for everyone! Try and get your kids to whittle down their lists to about 5 things. If you get one from the list, let grandparents, aunts and uncles know of the rest. Shop around, try Ebay for ‘gently used’ items such as electronic game cartridges. Buy your items in one spot, sign up for the store credit card for the instant discount, then pay off the balance. Doesn’t hurt to throw in “Santa’s a little broke this year too,” takes a little pressure off of you!

What kind of camera do you have and why do you like it? I have a Canon Powershot S5IS. I’m really loving it. It has a ton of neat functions, half of which I don’t know how to use yet. But, I also use Photoshop CS2 to enhance my shots, it is a fabulous program!

Who are you voting for President in November? Uh oh. Relationships have been known to end over such discussions. I will tell you it’s either McCain or Obama.

My son is in high school now and wants to date. I just want to make sure he’s having protected sex. Should I talk to him, or have his dad do it? We are separated. Hopefully you and your ex are on relatively good terms. I’d start by talking with him first and provided a united front on your ideas about dating (and sex). Will you buy him condoms? Will his dad suggest he buy them for himself? Will you let him know you’re too young to be a grandmother?

As a mom, talk with your son about taking a girl out. Let him know about being polite, respectful, and attentive. More than anything, let him know you are there for him and hope for open and honest communication.

Send me your questions, I’ll answer them in an upcoming installment of Ask The Mom, themomjen@gmail.com. Find me rambling on about one thing or another at my blog Cheaper Than Therapy.