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Sometimes I wonder if something happened to my husband how I would go on. Not physically, not how will I take care of myself, I am capable of all that. How would I emotionally live without my best friend in my life. Even if we are 100 years old, the thought of him dying and living a day without him takes my breath away.
And Charlotte.
If something ever happened to her, how would I move? How do mothers and fathers and families go on when they lose a child? I can only imagine myself in a ball and giving up.
Every time they get in a car together or I leave town, I think if something happened to them why I am gone…I would be nothing. I would have no purpose. They make up every cell in my body.
Do you think that its possible to love someone too much?
~Trisha
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My husband went to heaven two years ago I think of him many times a day almost all the time I miss him so much People say I will get over it , and life will go on , Well yes maybe life will go on that dont mean I would love to have my soul mate back just to be here in the world i’m in would make me very happy I know that cant be, when my 10 yr old grandson says he wishes papa would come back and why did he have to go. I tell him God knew papa was in to much pain and took him to heaven but I want him back too. I tell him we will see him again someday when we all get to heaven Right now it dosent matter who is with me I’m still so lonely my heart crys most of the time I dont thnk I will ever stop missing him , he was the best and I have the best memories of us Even when we argued I laugh about the arguements KAthleen
I love my special someone so much. If he died. I would ask God to take me. I love him more than myself\\lf. Unconditionally.
I have thought that too. Very honest post.
I am the same way.
Much as I love my husband, I know I could go on without him. The kids? I cannot fathom breathing without them. I am a nervous wreck when someone other than me drives them all or takes them out. Such a scary thought.
I should probably be medicated.
Just wanted to comment and say that even though those thoughts are horrific, and you will go through immense pain, you can and will eventually pick up the pieces and move on. On Oct. 12th my brother will have been gone 10 years, and while it nearly killed my parents to have to bury their first born and only son, eventually we as a family pulled together and moved on. Not trying to make lite of it, just saying that I know all of you are strong women and somehow you’d all muster up the courage to move forward and carry on. I hope and pray none of you have to experience such loss, but know that somehow you will be able to carry on. Of course this is coming from a gal who worries all the time about her boyfriend who lives in another state from her. LOL!
You sound like me. I dont know if I could survive without my kids. They are absolutely everything to me. I’d be locked up somewhere probably…I would loose my mind. However, if I go before them then I have a book of poems, thoughts, opinions and Bible quotes for every ocassion and broken heart set aside for each one of them.
The more you love, the more you know that going on is what the other person would want you to do. If your DH died, you’d hold on for your children (if nothing else), but what if everyone died in a tragic accident. Check out the woman on the Biggest Loser this season. Three years ago her husband, 4 year old daughter, and 2 week old son were killed by a drug driver going 100 mph. She was not in the car and knows that she has a, yet to be realized, purpose on this earth. That said, she also says that just getting out of bed is an accomplishment for her each day. She is VERY inspirational and I know she will be successful with her weight lost and I can’t wait to see her.
I feel the same way. I think of my kids and their dad as my family, the ones I could not live without. I have thought about this a lot and I honestly don’t know how I would ever go on if I lost them.
Too weird. My hubby & I talked about this the other day. I realized I’m nearly the age my mom was when my dad diet. At the time I thought she was OOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLLLLLLLDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD. Know I know better.
We giggled about dating after the other is gone and I told him this is how my personal ad would read, “Used to being cared for like a princess – breakfast in bed several times a week, treated with kindness and respect, delivery of many Big Gulp Diet Cokes and unexpected treats, etc. Only Prince Charming’s need apply.”
He’s 51 and has a stressful job, so our time together could be ended at any time and it really freaks me out. He’s made sure we have plenty of insurance, but that would never take the place of him.
What will I do? Not sure. I’ve already planned my funeral and written him a letter. I only hope that I go first so I don’t have to live through the heartache. I don’t know that I could go on. I know if I didn’t have my kids, I certainly wouldn’t.
I just cherish him while he’s here.
Connie
wow, you wrote a letter and everything? I dont think i could do that. I would be a wreck.
Scott and I talk about this a lot. We are totally and utterly obsessed with eachother. We are never apart, unless he is away on business. We are attached at the butt and grossly in love. The thought of living apart sends us into an anxiety fit full of tears. So, we just warship eachother daily and love like there is no tomorrow.
I really don’t know how people go on living after something like that happens. I can’t even imagine!
It’s nice to know that there are other women out there that feel the same bond with the husbands and can’t imagine life without them. Together, our kids are our life. I can’t imagine our focus if the kids were gone. I just feel blessed to love this much. And I pray that God will keep them with me.
i have known my DH since i was 15 years old..high school, college, half my life. I just cant imagine living in a world he isnt in.
I think about this all the time and most of the time end up in tears at the meer thought. It would be so much easier if we never had to think about reality but alas it is always there to smack us in the face when we least expect it.
Oh sweetie I think about this daily. I cry when my kids get sick, I worry when my hubby drives to work. My family is why I live and breathe and I cannot think about what I would do if I lost any of them. I don’t think we love TOO much, it’s we love SO much it makes our hearts so full.
i worry about the car a lot too
I think about that all the time. I know I would be ok with out my husband, it would be devastating, but I’d have my kids. But, if I lost all of them? I think I would die. I would just curl up into a ball and die. Do you watch Biggest Loser? One of the contestants husband and two children were killed in a car crash. I cry every single time I think about it. It’s not possible to love someone too much, not at all!
I often think about things like that, and quite honestly it physically hurts when I do. My heart starts racing, my stomach starts hurting and sometimes I feel like I have to force myself to breathe. I know that I could take care of myself if something happened to them, but I don’t know if I could handle the emotional aspect though. My family is everything to me and like you, my purpose for being here.
I’ve wondered the same thing many times. I’ve always joked with my husband that I hope I die first because I know he’d be okay without me. Me…I’d just be curled up in bed with a house full of cats crying over every joke or song that reminded me of him.
Losing a child, it’s rough, REALLY rough, something I thought I would never heal from. But I did. Time does heal.
So I’m not the only one with those thoughts? Good to know.
I don’t think I could go on. My kiddo and Hubby are my life and I can’t imagine life without them. True they drive me crazy some days…wait that’s mostly Hubby LOL but I can’t imagine it.
nope, you are not the only one, we can be crazy together apparently.