Yesterday when I got off the phone with one of my friends that is going through a few things, I wondered to myself…..what makes her think so lowly about herself? Here is this amazing human being, someone I am proud to call a friend, so I wanted to write her a few thoughts that are sometimes hard to convey and I hope she reads them.
There are so many things I want to say to you, so I will start with this. You are an amazing person. I know that you have had a hard road and I know it’s easy to look at the things you have done to yourself or to others and think that is all you will amount to, that those situations are who you are, but I am here to tell you, they are not. They are simply situations. You are smart, beautiful, loving and kind.
You deserve more.
In fact, you deserve everything.
Right now the only thing holding you back in life is you. And let me tell you something, you cannot change who you have been. It’s time to learn, it’s time to grow, and it’s time to be who YOU want to be.
Say yes to life.
Say yes to fun.
Say yes to smiling every minute of every day.
Say yes to a life full of adventure and love.
Because the only person holding you back from all that is you.
I realize that we all have responsibilities and I understand fear. Gosh, I so understand fear. Fear of what might happen is keeping you from what might happen. And what might happen could be simply amazing. There are so many good things that await you if you open your heart up to it. Sometimes that means a risk. A risk to take the step, any step, a risk to jump into the darkness and not really know if you will land on your feet. But risk does not mean failure.
Failure is only capable to those that do not try.
Can you look back on yesterday, the past year, the past 5 years and see that playing it safe, going through the day to day has gotten you where you want to go? Are you where you should be? Have the naysayers around you made things happen FOR you that you were unaware of? Then why listen to them all? Why listen to the mom, grandma, child, friend, aunt, or anyone else that tells you that you are not good enough or plays on your fears of making a step that is solely for you. And it’s so easy to make excuses, to succumb to what others may think or feel or see for you, but you are the only one that can make the decisions and make the changes. You are the only one living your life.
Now is the time.
Not next month, next week, next year.
You do not need a resolution to change. Change this moment. Make every decision from this point on count. It’s a new year, it’s a new life, it’s time to be who you want to be. Do not look back and wish you would have changed. Look back a rewarded, happy, or at the very least, excited human being that is nothing but happy regarding your current direction.
Make no excuses. There are no faults. You cannot blame how you were parented, a friend that treated you poorly, a bad relationship, horrible finances, or something that may have brought you down. Because YOU decide who you are in the end.
YOU are the one that owns it all.
Every day I wake up I know it is filled with possibility. I AM ALIVE!!
What will my children become, who can I make a difference for this moment, what work can I accomplish, what memory can I store? I cannot imaging waking up and wondering and waiting and sighing.Let me be a lesson to you. There is a time in everyone’s life, maybe many times, where you come to a cross roads to try, to change, to be and do you do what you were born to do. That road for you is NOW.
Do you have the life that you want to have? Do you CREATE the memories and experiences you want? Or do you let it just happen to you and around you and go back home and believe that depression, sadness, and same old is who you are.
This is your choice. This is YOUR day.
Start loving yourself like those around you, love you. You are not too fat, too thin, too brazen, too shy, too scared, too weak, too boring, or too broken.
If you are around those that hold you back, walk. You do not need to walk away from them, but instead walk towards something better.
John Lennon once said “Life is what happens to you when you are busy making other plans.”
It’s time for YOU to happen to life.
And we cannot wait to have you back.
I love you.