My MIL isnt a terrible person, but she is freaking lazy. We moved ALL THE WAY back to this location, just an hour from her (we used to live about 14 hours away and have lived too far to drive for about 8 years) specifically so we can raise our daughter near both sets of grandparents.
One hour a way.
Our lives go like this:
DH: “Hey, mom, you want to watch Charlotte this weekend so Trisha and I can go out?”
MIL: “Uh…I may have something to do.”
DH: “What?”
MIL: “Dad has to cut the grass“
They didnt even come to our house for EASTER SUNDAY…all of a sudden, she had to work. She went in, on an office closed day, to show a house, on easter sunday, that was not going to sell…and they wouldnt even come before or after the showing…for a holiday. Our first holiday home here.
Seriously, this is every single time we ask them to watch Charlotte..something else is more important. I think they are really really lazy. Thats all it is. And she is a really, really good little girl. I just wish her grandparents wanted to see her. My dad, on the other hand, works 14 hours a day and commutes an hour daily to and from work, and still goes out of his way. He feels guilty if he doesn’t see her for a week.
My grandmother is coming to see me this weekend from Iowa. I haven’t seen her in two years or more. I am THRILLED. Then she is driving up to my dads to see him and taking charlotte with her. My aunt and 3 cousins are also coming. So my DH calls his mom to see if charlotte could sleep at their house (its in the same small town, just about 15 away from my parents). We wanted my parents/grandmother to drop charlotte off about an hour before bedtime nightly so she had her own room and they would pick her up in the am. Just SLEEP there. My dad doesn’t have room for those 5 people plus Charlotte, but my grandmother wants to maximize her time seeing Charlotte, understandably. His parents said: “But we work“. And…….
Still waiting here to figure out how they working correlates w/ her sleeping at night at her grandparents house. I work. Chris works. My parents work. Brush her teeth and put her to bed. Get her up, get her some cerel and pass her off. I am convinced this interrupts their nightly bourbon and war movie time.
Wouldnt you want to spend time w/ this face?
Your mother in law crazy?
My mother in law is very generous in regards to buying things for us, coming out to see the kids (we live on opposite coasts), etc. The flip side is that she insults me constantly (my weight, my parenting, my home, my kids, etc) and then plays innocent or claims “she never said that”. She tries to interfere and make decisions that are not hers to make including whether or not my daughter should have cable tv in her room, who my kids godparents should be, what we eating for christmas dinner, etc.
She can be very nasty. At this point I am no longer talking to her. Just could not take it anymore.
She doesn’t try to pull that stuff with her stepsons, Son in law or my husband – just with me and my SIL (her daughter).
Mine is a complete nut job! I could write a book.
She got mad at hubby for a few years ago, still don’t know why. She actually went to the police and filed reports that he stole her identity & that I stole from her & sold her stuff on ebay. That was fun being investigated by the police.
Of course they couldn’t understand why a mom would do that unless it was true. No charges were ever brought from it, but it really messed up our family. That was just one thing she has done over the 11+ years we’ve been together!
It depends on the day.
Mostly, mine is just super hormonal (Menopausal, I think)
But for the most part, she’s okay.
Except when she’s in a mood
cute picture! my mil is great, i have been very lucky!
There used to be issues with my MIL, but needless to say she had some medical issues and was in the hospital for 2 months. This was some reality check for her and she has been a sweetie ever since! So, I am lucky, but I will say that we can’t get her to watch the girls much at all. She seems to always have plans when we ask. Other than that she’s great.
My MIL isn’t the greatest either but since she works 5-2p she’s able come get the boys so hubby can sleep and I can work a bit later. She does have her quirks that I don’t like but hey gotta take the bad with the good sometimes. I mean I can’t call her mom, b.c one I have one and two she so much for me as well.
That’s sad! They are missing out!
well… I do mostly love my mil… I also like that they live very far away. I do NOT love how little effort they put into the lives of my kids (my mom moved to our town just to be near them, they barely remember birthdays etc).
I tolerate mine. She’s different and a little out there. Thakfully she lives 4 hours away and I don’t have to see her too often.
mine is 4000 miles away….and thats the way I like it!!!!