Recently one of our MomDoterators (cute word, thats moderator in momdot speak) wrote a post on being a Working Mommy and a conversation she had at her daughters new school from the room mother. Then an anonymous commenter to her blog says:
Now, my question is not to debate the actual post, that was on that blog, so go there to comment on the blog itself if you want to talk about it, but are anonymous comments ok? If we have an opinion, should we be hiding behind a FAKE or non-name or be proud of our opinion, even if controversial, and if we CANT use our name, should we be saying it at all?
Have you ever left an anony comment without using your name and why? Do you publish anony comments? To Bridgettes credit, she published this and responded to it.
No…Anon comments IMO are not ok, unless the person puts their name under it. Esp rude comments. I made anon comments on 1 blog, but that was because I hadnt signed up for anything yet, but I always put my name under my comment-so she would know.
No I have never used an anon. It only bothers me that people use an anon when they are rude and obnoxious intentionally hiding behind the anon.
I think anon comments are lame.
anon- giant weenie
Come on… everone has an opinion and are welcome to it. So why hide?
THats whats cool about the net…so many people…so many opinions.
If a person leaves a positive or even a neutral comment, then I don’t mind them being anon. However, if they’re going to slam me then they better step up and take responsibility.
Personally, its not something I would do. But I wouldn’t say anything behind someone’s back that I wouldn’t say to their face.
Honestly…anonymous = weenie
Own up to your comments especially if you are gonna have internet balls like that one did.
I have never left an annonymous comment. I have received them- regularly actually- some I leave published, some I delete. Depends on my mood.
I’ve never left an anonymous comment and I don’t allow them on my site. I’ve seen too many hurtful ones and I think I’m far too sensitive for that.
I think people think that because they may have a different opinion than that of the writer – they would have no voice.
Most bloggers I know welcome a different perspective. It can certainly make for great conversation.
However, as will most things…it’s not WHAT you say it’s HOW you say it.
(shoot me now, I think I just sounded like my mother!)
My feeling is that if you can’t give your name and be honest about who you are and what you feel…than you don’t matter. You are a complete wienie. Have the balls to at least “show your face”. That being said, I’ve never left an anon. comment. I don’t usually delete comments, unless they are spam.
The only time I left an anonymous post was when I forgot to fill in the contact info on a comment site…and I went right back and identified myself afterward.
If I’m going to say something, everyone is going to know it was me who said it.
I’ve never left an anon post and I think those that put the rude comments up there should think by this….If you wanna say something but don’t want to take the “credit” sort of speak for saying it then you shouldnt say it at all! JMO
I hate them. If you’re going to post, use a name. I wish I could flick off every anon I’ve had. (But they have all been assholes.)
I don’t leave anonymous comments. I don’t mind getting them depending on the type of comment they are. One as opinionated as that needs a name on it. Being nasty like that is so not necessary and not putting a name on it just makes it that much more frustrating.
I’ve never done it myself. If I don’t have the kahunas to say it with my name attached, then I just don’t bother.
If the comment would contribute to my blog, I wouldn’t have a problem with it. Not that I would axe a comment that I didn’t agree with, even dissent can further a discussion.
I haven’t either. I fyou have something to say, stand by it with your name & blog address especially it makes a whollatta’ sense! Why hide ?
i think who does it has confidence issues – but that’s just me! – Ok don’t be anon commenting on my blog now!
I think the woman who left that comment is a coward. I find hiding behind annonimity makes people feel more powerful than they actually are. She would have never said something so demeening if she was asked to leave her name and location.
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Anon comments are fine, rude ones are not. If you believe so strongly in what you’re saying, have the cajones to let people know who you are.
No I don’t like being Anon it’s creepy to me. If your gonna chime in you should leave your name. I guess they were just scared to.
HOLY CRAP!! OH.NO. SHE DIDN”T. I’ll be reading more of that right now.
I have left them, but that was before I had my own blog, and that was the only way to leave them (or so I thought). I have had anon comments left in the past, but never hurtful. I think in general, when used to leave comments and not to stalk and degrade, they are fine.
I think stalking and degrading comments are never OK regardless.
I’ve never left an anon post. If you’re going to be an ass an judge someone like that, you should have the balls to say who you are!
I have never done it. I think if you are going to say something you should also give your name. I find most people that do it though, usually like saying mean and hurtful things to others but sure don’t want to hear it themselves! I guess that’s why they hide .
I think that you should let everyone know who you are. I like hearing both sides of the debate whether its good or bad. But I also think that if someone disagrees just like in your example taht person should not be ridiculed or made fun of. Everyone is entitled to their opinions.
I don’t think I’ve ever left an anonymous post. On my blog sometimes I’ll get them, but they’re some of the best ones! And I always hate that I can’t write them back and tell them that. I’ve never had a negative anon post…not yet anyway! I know they’re coming as long as I keep blogging!