Maybe its because I am a first born. Maybe its because I watched my dad work his butt off every single day. But what it definitely is, is my inherent desire to do something great and to keep achieving, that keeps me working so hard; I fall asleep standing up some days.
I work from home. Nope, not the blog. Can you believe I have another job? And its a lot more full time then this. The worst thing about my other job is that its completely, physically draining. Sometimes I dont get to bed till midnight and I’m JUST THEN winding down from the day. It takes me 30 min to get to sleep and then I get up 6 hours later and start it all over again.
When Im not working, Im thinking about working. And its not always about the money. IN fact, its never about the money. Its about just doing something and doing a GOOD GREAT job. I do not know how to fail.
And then there is that other thing, like the crappy economy and the pressure of the house, the car(s), the child, the husband, the bills….the balance between things we need and the things we want.
Take for instance vacation. My husband took a new job this past Feb and they told him this week he has 7 days of ‘use or lose’ vacation days by Dec 31st. Hell, we didn’t even know he had any. So now, he wants to go on vacation. A perfectly reasonable request….but then it starts over for me. The money. Do I pull it out of savings. Do I use it as our Christmas gift and no one gets presents and we just do a vacation. WHAT IF something happens and I just racked up that credit card bill OR what if I pull it out of savings and we need it…or what if Christmas day comes and I feel guilty no one has presents and I go out and buy them and now im in debt for a vacation AND christmas.
Someone help me. The crazy man in my head is lose.
The vacation-at-home is a good idea considering the dour economy and financial circumstances a lot of us find ourselves in. Why not do day trips to see the local sites? Or just spend the time doing things around the house that never seem to get done? Or just Chris around to spend more time with Charlotte and you? We just had our second child three weeks ago, and my DH took this week off just to spend time with us (he wasn’t able to do so any sooner). It has been great having him here, and we aren’t stressing over the extra money spent by taking an away–rom home vacation. It’s been a peaceful and relaxing week so far. Plus, by doing this you’ll have the money for the Christmas presents, maybe plus some.
I am a travel addict. If I don’t get to go somewhere, anywhere, after a couple of months I get very cranky. My vote would be a close to home vacation. Get a place with a kitchen and make your meals there or find the local free things to do. Vacations don’t have to be expensive to be fun, but (sounding like a Hallmark card or credit card ad) the experience is priceless.
So sorry that you’re going crazy! Vacations are great and make memories and you don’t have to clean up after them. BUT the economy sucks right now so it’s a hard decision! I would say, let him take off work and go shopping with you for Christmas gifts. It’s not as fun but he can sleep in and be home with you guys more. And he can pick you out something nice for Christmas after you take him shopping for the kids and hint around at what YOU want! (wink wink) Good luck!
I wish I had some advice for you. My own husband is on this kick of taking a vacation. We need it badly, but can’t afford it financially.
What does Chris say? Does he want a blow out or a nice week with his family? We have some pretty cool stuff here in the ATL that you could probably catch on the cheap if you wanted a driving destination. The aquarium, the new World of Coke, the Zoo (complete with a new baby panda), Stone Mountain (which does a lot of stuff in the fall). It isn’t anything glam but it would be something different. Maybe you can have your cake and eat it too.
I can so relate to this post Trisha! If you were in So Cal we could go out and paint the town red… or pink… maybe purple!!
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I have learned to accept the crazy man in my head, but I still find myself trying to reason with him…. he’s not having it though!
Funny, I need to relax a little less. I wish I had your moxie and drive. I’m a floral designer and a yoga teacher and have half an english degree but no career in any of those areas. I wish I could find a calling or a craft and just make it work the way you do.
Good luck deciding on the vacation thing. There are plenty of on-the-cheap getaways that could be a total blast for you guys. I’m confident that you will think of something awesome and (hopefully) share the fun with all your friends here.
Can ya’ll move to Tampa?
Then we can do Momdot together, Bambina together and the girls can go to school
i have no friends here. We moved in our house in march and pretty much all our neighbors are old or work during the day. There just isnt anyone local that is my age, w/ a child or whatever….its just me and my DH. Thats it.
The whole last paragraph sounds just like me. I worry about every what if. And I know that it won’t help to say things will work out, but you will get it all figured out. You just need to be sure you don’t get too overwhelmed!
I think we all have that happen sometimes. I say you need a girls night out or a nice relaxing spa treatment. But then the money comes into play again. So try seeing if there are any esthetician schools around. Usually they do decent treatments at a very low rate. Or try a massage school and go in for a massage. Good thing you have the New Orleans trip coming up!
What about doing a close to home vacation, like traveling around to different places around where you live. That way you don’t have to spend money on hotels, airfare, etc.