I was dropping charlotte off at school and incidentally she was telling me how she was going to meet Cinderella soon, and there was a mom standing next to me kissing her child goodbye and the boy was telling her that he was pushed last time. So then mom says “when that happens you need to tell the teacher or you should just push them back.”
I looked over. OMG. I did not just hear a parent tell a 4 year old that its ok to push another child back when they are pushed. What is WRONG with her? Charlotte tells me when she is pushed or any other physical thing happens at school and i always stress to her that its NOT ok to push or kick or bite back, that you go to a teacher for them to handle it. Why didn’t that mom go to the teacher RIGHT THEN and address it. All the teachers were standing around…Instead, just say, PUSH BACK?
So we are going outside and she is front of me muttering something about pushing (yep, under her breath). Now let me stop and explain that where I drop Charlotte off, they have about 5 parking spots. Its SO tiny. Most people just park on the roundabout that brings you back into the road, because if you pull into a spot someone will block you in.
Anyhoo, I’m in an SUV so its higher and I park as far right as I can when I drop Charlotte off so other cars can still get out. This lady was parked smack in the middle of the road….with her car RUNNING. And as I am looking down into her car shaking my head, I notice a baby about 4 months in the backseat in a car seat.
Not only was she inside giving *awesome* advice to her son, but she left her car running, in the middle of the road, with a 4 month old in the backseat.
I better shut up now or Im gonna get REALLY ugly.
this article is a flashback from MomDot 2008
Where’s the cops when they are needed? that woman needs parenting 101 for sure!!
oh thats just totally awesome! *note the sarcasm here* what is wrong with that woman? she needs help with parenting skills. seriously.
Oh, my goodness! I would have called the police from my car and reported her. That’s AWFUL! How scary! Anyone could have acted like that was their car and casually drove away. Even worse, if this is a habit of hers, someone not so nice could see that and be planning a time to take advantage of that. Yikes!
Short story…my husband was in grade school when some kid that didn’t like him punched him in the face. Both kids got sent home (school rules)and my husband’s parents grounded HIM for a week…the reason….because he didn’t defend himself and punch back. Uhh yeah…you’re thinking WTF…That is not our policy by any means. I don’t care what someone does to you, unless your life is in danger there are other options than physical retaliation, I don’t care if my kids are seen as wimps for it.
Unbelievable!
You should have pulled her car around the block, just to give her a little scare. He he…. I’m evil. (And I’m kidding of course.) But really, how sad would it be to lose a baby that way?
Ugh… the baby in the car really upsets me the most but it’s all a bit upsetting!
When Brody used to go to daycare, they actually had signs up saying if you leave your child in the car even for a minute that they’ll report you. I’m glad they did that because it’s insane to leave a child no matter how fast you’ll be. I couldn’t imagine leaving either of my kids in the car. If I go to the bank I go through the drive through lane. If I get gas I pay at the pump. Or I haul both of them in with me. It’s a pain but I would never forgive myself if something happened to them.
As far as the pushing, I agree. It’s a conflicting message. The initial “pusher” is wrong for pushing. Yet you’re telling your child their pushing is justified. If pushing is wrong, it’s wrong. My son got bit a lot at daycare but I never once told him to bite back. Because guess what? Then I’d be dealing with a biter too. No thanks! I just remember on more than 1 occasion when he came home with a bite mark the teacher would be like “Well Brody took a toy from the other child so the other child bit him”. As if it was Brody’s fault because he had taken the toy. Should he have taken the toy? No! But that doesn’t make it ok for the other child to bite. I just know when I worked in school settings the last thing I would have wanted would be for the kids to start pushing each other back.
I dont ever think its ok to push back. Ever. Someone elses actions should not mean that we lower ourselves to doing that too. If someone pushes me, ill walk away…a million times over before Im going to resort to physical violence on someone. I just cant imagine a circumstance where its ever ok to give permission to a child to hit/push/bite back as a way to solve a problem.
jmho
I have to admit I’m guilty of the “Well then push back” comment. BUT it’s after the teachers have been talked to and done nothing and it’s happened repeatedly. My kid isn’t a door mat and shouldn’t be expected by lazy school admin to be one either. Sorry. I had flash backs to our previous inept school district. But right off the bat, no, you tell them to talk with their teacher or you talk with the teacher yourself. For more idiocy in parenting read my blog today
Oh my gosh! Trisha, I would have gone off on her, right then and there. For the pushing, for leaving the car running, for leaving the baby in the car. She would have gotten quite the earful from me.
I have FIVE kids. If I have to run into the bank for a second, go inside to pay for gas, or whatever, guess what? ALL 5 KIDS COME WITH ME. Is it a pain in the butt? You betcha. But, at least I know my kids are safe.
Some people are just idiots and don’t deserve to be parents. This woman obviously falls into that category. I would have told her as much… but that’s just me, and I don’t always know when to keep my mouth shut.
I will not scream. I will not scream. I will not scream.
AAAUUUGGGHHH!!!
I tried! You saw me! I want to V8 people like that! Those are the kids who get to be bullies. Those are the parents who’s child crossed the playground on Tuesday and said “Hey give me a juice too would ya?” There is such a Toilet Bowl rant in there but the Today show beat you to my focus today. I’ll get back to you on this one!
What a wonderful parent, and they’ll wonder why their kids are always in trouble later in life.
I pulled into the bank one morning last month next to this car, music blaring, windows down, and a newborn in the car all alone. The kid couldn’t have been more than a few weeks old and mom was in the bank by herself. I can’t even imagine letting my kid alone!
Oh yeah, that’s smart !
Wow…thats REALLY sad
Wow! These are the same parents that tell their kids to argue with their teachers (me)! I love it!
And, leaving your kid in the car? Idiot!
Some people really shouldn’t be parents.
EEKK!
WOW!!! I used to be really amazed by these things, but I think I am growing numb at the idiot antics I see day in and day out.
OMG! I really can’t believe anyone would leave a baby in any car these days…despite the rest of it!