When Trisha told me she’d love to have me guest post on Momdot.com, to be frank (which is an odd phrase, because my name’s Andrew, not Frank), I was honored. Over the past year, I’ve gotten to know Trisha and the entire Momdot mom blogger community. I can easily say this is one of the… no, this is THE most helpful, selfless, entertaining, sweet and fantastic blogging communities I’ve ever had the pleasure of being part of. I truly appreciate everything everyone’s done for me, especially Trisha. She’s truly a giving person and just seems to live off of loyalty to her friends, as much as she does oxygen. So thank you for letting me take center stage with this guest post, Trisha. Without you and the unbelievable community you built, I honestly don’t think Mommy’s Busy, Go Ask Daddy would still be around.
You don’t need to be an astronomer to know that men are from Mars and women from Venus.
But what I want to know is where do bloggers come from? And for that matter what about mommy bloggers and daddy bloggers?
Yes, men and women have their differences, and I’m not just talking about our plumbing. We’re built real different in the head and the heart too. Thankfully there’s enough attraction and compatibility to keep things fun, exciting and, well, keep the human race alive!
But when it comes to blogging, there are most definitely niches. You’ve got your foodies. The bad boys. The healthy granolas. The jocks. The drama queens. The nerds. The single moms. Heck, it’s pretty much just like high school now that i think about it. Only without the fire drills.
I like most categories, and don’t really stick to just one. That goes for reading, as well as writing posts on my own blog, I really try to mix it up a bit. I’ve had recipes, reviews, giveaways, parenting issues, and so on. I’ve written about the seriousness of infertility one day and the awesomeness of making my own sushi another day.
I guess you could call my blog more of a Lifestyle blog from a guy’s point of view. Though most would simply call me a Daddy Blogger.
I have no problem with being a Daddy Blogger. I’m a daddy. I’m a blogger. Ergo, I’m a daddy blogger.
While I don’t write about staying home to raise my little hellions in diapers, I do talk about my kids quite a bit. And in that sense, daddy bloggers and mommy bloggers are real similar. But not surprisingly, there are oodles, yes oodles, of ways that daddy and mommy bloggers differ. I figured what better place to compare the two groups than right here on Momdot.com!
Let’s break things down now, shall we?
Mommy Bloggers: Forget about such volatile topics as religion, politics or abortion. Things get way more heated on mommy blogs when you start talking about homeschooling and breastfeeding…or kids with doughnuts.
Daddy bloggers: The most heated discussions I’ve witnessed on daddy blogs usually center around instant replay in baseball and whether Star Wars is better than Star Trek. (Note: It is.)
Children Growing Up
Mommy Bloggers: When June hits, you can count on an avalanche of tear-filled mommy posts about their little guys or gals graduating from kindergarten or elementary school. It’s a rite of passage that fills a mommy blogger with pride yet also a dose of sadness.
Daddy bloggers: Sure it’s sad watching your little guys get older, but the truly depressing moments captured in writing are when your kids start crushing you in video games.
Mommy Bloggers: When dads accidentally stumble upon some mommy blogger posts, they may be horrified to find themselves smack dab in the middle of discussions centering on clogged milk ducts, heavy period flows and other hair-raising behind-the-scenes tales of womanhood that would cause most men to curl up in the fetal position in the corner of the room should they hear any of this..
Daddy bloggers: The scariest daddy blogger posts I’ve read generally involve the words “elbow deep” and “poop.” Shudder.
Mommy Bloggers: Besides the obvious gender stereotypes, mommy bloggers put their emotions on their blog’s sleeve. They describe every detailed feeling they had while going through a massive ordeal. It makes no difference if they’re discussing surgery, childbirth or grocery shopping, it all gets put under the microscope.
Daddy bloggers: Armed with the three emotions all men are born with (happy, sad, and angry), daddy bloggers relish in huge accomplishments like successfully “babysitting” their own kids for 2 hours, methodically arguing why The Dukes of Hazzard was way better than Knight Rider (dynamite arrows!), and of course, a plethora of fart jokes.
Mommy Bloggers: Sure I know a lot of women who enjoy beer, but I can’t tell you the number of mommy blogs that seem to swim comfortably in glasses of wine.
Daddy bloggers: Like eating salad during a football game, dads just don’t blog about wine. At least real dad bloggers don’t.
Mommy Bloggers: If mommy bloggers pour their hearts and souls out into their posts, their readers return the feelings tenfold in the comments sections. Lengthy and supportive comments share their own similar experiences and offer a multitude of suggestions. Yeah, that’s pretty much the definition of community.
Daddy bloggers: For every single supportive or helpful comment, you can expect nine one-liner jokes trying to out-funny the previous comment.
Mommy Bloggers: I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve had to wipe the drool off my keyboard after looking at some of the insanely delicious-looking recipes that mommy bloggers (a.k.a. foodies) share with their readers.
Daddy Bloggers: Generally if it’s food-related on a daddy blog, it has to do with Joey Chestnut breaking the hot dog eating record or perhaps a recipe for boiling water.
Loving Their Families
Mommy Bloggers: There is no doubt that mommy bloggers live for their family.
Daddy bloggers: There is no doubt that daddy bloggers live for their family.
Despite what I hope is perceived as tongue and cheek, I’m sure I’ll get some flack about this list from both sides of the blogging gender fence. Yes, I know there are plenty of stay-at-home dads who blog about every single smile their little daughters give them. There are certainly differences between daddy and mommy bloggers, just as there are plenty of similarities too. The blogging community as a whole is an amazing, ever-growing, ever-accepting community.
Mommy bloggers may currently outnumber daddy bloggers roughly 26 to 1 (according to my very unscientific poll), but daddy bloggers are certainly on the rise. We love our kids just as much as you moms do. And while older generations may’ve cringed at a man eating (and enjoying!) quiche, this generation of daddy bloggers is darn proud to take an increasingly active role in raising our kids.
In the end, it really doesn’t matter if you’re a mommy blogger or a daddy blogger. Strip away all the makeup and testosterone and what you’re left with are simply bloggers. Bloggers who are passionate about their writing, their communities and above all else, their kids.
Andrew Kardon is the proud poppa of Mommy’s Busy, Go Ask Daddy. Even though he’s married to his college sweetheart and has two awesome boys, he somehow manages to write about being a parent over at Singlemommie.com.