I received a baby shower invite today from a neighbor. Lets ignore the fact that its on Superbowl Sunday and Ill be leaving if it even threatens to run into the big game.
The invite is listed to me-not Dh. Which of course is fine because he would probably rather stay at home I am sure.
But does this mean I can’t bring Charlotte? I was telling DH that it would be kinda ironic to be expected not to bring your child to a shower, since its about…well…children.
Do you think its expected to be adults only?
I feel like a moron calling to ask.
~Trisha
From my experience, when its an Adult only party or shower, it is stated on the invitation. If not, I think it should be okay.
I usually bring atleast one of my children every shower i go to if its’ at someone’s house I don’t see the problem if its at a hall I’d call and ask to be safe
I have never seen children at these events. I think if others were bringing their children then I would bring mine.
I would call. But you got tons of great advice!
My opinion – no taking kids unless it is on the invite. I would call if it is a neighbor though and just ask if she would mind. Have fun!
Unless specified, I wouldn’ t bring my kids to an event without first asking. But that’s just how I’be always been. If you are not sure, just give her a call and make sure she knows that if she really doesn’t want children you don’t mind, you just weren’t sure. You don’t want to make her feel bad about saying no if she wasn’t planning on kids at the house.
Have fun… but WHO plans a baby shower on Super Bowl Sunday…. that’s a holiday!!!
For our shower, we wrote the names of the children who were invited on the invites. Like, my friends 8 yo daughter WAS invited, but her 4 yo wasn’t. There wasn’t anything for the 4 yo to do & she’d have been in the way. The 8 yo could participate in the crafts & activities.
Do you know anyone else who is going? Maybe ask them? Otherwise, I’d just causally ask.
Hmm…
I am of the mind that if they would have wanted children at the party, it would have been on the invitation. I would probably leave my son at home…. or just decline the invite.
( plus…its superbowl sunday…thats like a major holiday in our house)
That’s a tough call. Do you know any other women going to the shower that have kids? Maybe you could call them and casually ask them about their plans for the shower. If not, I would think calling the hostess and asking would be appreciated. It shows that you are considerate.
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In my oppinion I would take her but then I’ve never been to a baby shower that wasn’t close friends/family lol. I only did NOT take Owen to my cousin’s baby shower because it was at a hotel and I was going with my grandma & great grandma. I knew he wouldn’t be good enough for that. Also Jeff’s the kind where unless I’m working or going to something that important getting to do something without Owen is a bit of a hassle.
I would ask, only because I have been to baby showers that are kid friendly, but I’ve been to others that were much more formal, frouffy china and everything. If it’s in someone’s living room, chances are that unless they decorate in nothing but glass and porcelain, kids will be welcomed. Never hurts to double check!
My sister’s, my own, and 3 other showers I’ve ‘hosted’ have all included children. I mean most of the people in attendance have young ones of their own so no one minds, and we’ve been going around in circles attending each other’s showers. I also find that little girls are into them more, but what I don’t like is a child that ‘needs’ to open the presents for the mom-to-be. If that isn’t Charlotte, then there is no reason you can’t bring her. But I would just call to confirm that she can come. I mean you are buying a gift, and why shouldn’t your daughter get to start down the fun road of baby showers?
Most of the time, the people at the shower haven’t seen my kids for so long that they love the opportunity to see them…but I’m talking about friends, not acquaintances.
I would think no. I have never been to a shower that was kid-friendly and I have only been to one that included men. I have also never taken my kids to a shower. I kind of see it as girl time, a chance to chat with other women and enjoy a few minutes of quiet time. Girl bonding is a must for me to keep my sanity. But, I am not one of those moms that takes my children everywhere I go. I work from home so when I leave the house I try to do it alone, but that is just me. If I were you, I’d ask if it is OK to bring her. But if it were me, hubbie would have the kids. And I, too, would leave in time for the big game!
I’d call to ask.
I’ve never brought my kids to a baby shower before. Mainly because they weren’t invited but also because it’s kind of nice having a break, plus I always assume that they think about the issue and whether they want to have children there or not before they send out the invites. If it’s not on the card, I wouldn’t bring her but that’s just me.
I would ask to be on the safe side, but to me it would depend on how well behaved the child would be. Showers aren’t typically set up as a childproof area; many times they have breakable items as decor and food that is not the best pick for kiddos. However, if you’re child would be content to sit their and watch and interact in a calm manner, then I don’t see why anyone would have a problem with it. I wouldn’t at my shower.
Typically, our children have been welcome, but it’s always better to be on the safe side and ask instead of committing a no-no.
not ok without asking.
why are they inviting u, if the husbands are friends? i wouldn’t bring Charlotte, unless you asked first, but if you barely know the mom-to-be, plus u have childcare issues, + it may interfere w/another planned activity for the day……do u need to go?
they live in the house behind us….if i *dont go*, its probably just rude.
I think I would say that the only way you can attend is to bring Charlotte since your husband might be busy with football festivities.