Charlotte is a girly girl when it comes to hair, makeup, nails, and dresses. She is however quite the boy when it comes to playing. Hot Wheels GALORE in this house and we all know she has a thing for frogs.
You can say I have the best of both worlds complete with the 3 chin stitches.
Now because her birthday is just a month off of Christmas, to say she needs no new toys is an understatement. In fact, she needs no new ANYTHING.
I was telling my DH I should take her to the salon and let her get a pedi and mani complete with some nail polish. Its something she has never done outside of playtime at home and sounds like a cool idea. At least in my head.
Sorta a mom/daughter day out. I think she would find it very special.
Then I open my email today and it has this in it…call it some great Cosmic Sign of Bad Parenting:
Tyra Show is looking for moms with kids ages 5-13 who think pampering children teaches the wrong message. Do you feel that children should not be getting manicures, pedicures, or spa treatments at a young age? Do you feel that pampering teaches them you need to be “beautified” to feel beautiful? If you are a mother AGAINST pampering, please respond ASAP – the show is next week!
Aside from the irony of The Tyra Show tackling this topic, instantly I’m like…am I bad mom? I didn’t even consider she was “too young” to go to the spa.
I was thinking it would be FUN, not damaging her psyche.
But then I started to wonder..what the hell is wrong with being beautiful? I think Charlotte is beautiful. I want her to know she is beautiful. Don’t we call that confidence? I tell her she is beautiful every day. So now if we get our nails painted we cant be smart too?
I am sure I am over thinking this.
Which probably means I’m ugly.
~Trisha
go enjoy your day! she will love it. i used to take my niece out.
Wow, thats crazy! I think thats totally nuts, but then again I am an esthetician so making people look & feel beautiful is my job. LOL
I think you ladies should enjoy a day at the spa together — its a good bonding experience, a wonderful memory, and it will be just plain fun!
I think taking her to get her nails done would be a wonderful treat for you both. It’s more about the “quality time” you guys are spending together rather than getting “pretty.” And since she really doesn’t need anything, why not have a mom and daughter afternoon and get some pretty toes at the same time. I say go for it!
Having one spa day or mani/pedi with your child is creating a special memory, not creating a monster. I think that if you’re letting your child be who she wants, and by letting her play with frogs you definitely are, then there’s nothing that says you’re wrong in making those memories. I think it’s parents who want their kids to be beauty queens 24/7 are the ones who have the issues, not letting kids get dirty (which me, not having kids, really thought was a kid’s job) and making their little girls always worry about being pretty are the parents who are making their children have issues. Like I said, I don’t have kids but I truly think that you’re going to be creating a memory your child will have for years and that you seem like a wonderful mom who just wants a well-rounded daughter. You aren’t trying to make Charlotte be someone she isn’t, hence teh frogs and the Hot Wheels. Parents with issues, bad parents, don’t let their little girls play with cars and toads.
I’d believe that when Tyra shows up to the show unpolished and in ordinary clothes– I have the same issue with our little one with her February birthday. I might steal your spa day idea! It’s not like your sending your daughter to preschool with mascara and fake nails! geez!
I think that is absolutely ridiculous – and this coming from a” supermodel” who has everything airbrushed and polished and buffed and whatever!
I think that having a little bit of pampering done to yourself is good for your self-esteem, and it is actually good for your skin, especially in the cold weather, so you are teaching her how to take care of herself. It’s not like it is plastic surgery.
I wish these “pseudo-celebrities” would just keep their mouths shut….
OK, I’m done with my rant, I’ll get off my soap box now… sorry!
Everyone needs a bit of pampering sometime and this is so much better than a bunch of gifts she’ll tire of. A lasting memory.
i think there’s a WORLD of difference between occassional pampering and demanding it every day/other day.
you want it as a special treat- i say go for it. maybe do it before her bday party so she can have the really cool polish for the party???
I say take her. I would if I had a little girl I’d do it. I think she’d love it.
I say take her to get the full royal treatment complete with a little lip gloss!
Teaching your daughter to appreciate her self, to love her self, to indulge from time to time in little luxuries like pedicures I think is a great invaluable lesson. She’ll love herself and let me tell you a woman who loves her self can be hard to find sometimes.
Plus-before you mentioned it-I was totally going to suggest it…
Another fun thing-pottery does she like arts and crafts…take her to paint up and fire up some pottery or something…
Trisha, you and Charlotte are both beautiful people. Who cares if she’s five? It’s not like she has weekly appointments. Might as well embrace the beauty and have some mommy/daughter time. I think if anything it shows what a good mom you are!
It’s her b-day, it something fun, even men go to get mani/pedi’s. Take her and enjoy your day out, Charlotte will love it!
You are not teaching your daughter that going to get your nails done is the only way to be beautiful in life. I think that would be bad parenting.
This is a fun birthday treat! Something to do with mommy
I remember going with my mom to get her nails done and I always wished I could have too. It was so fun getting my nails done the first time with my mom.
I think the idea of getting a little mani/pedi for your daughter is a great idea! Every one deserves something fun to do on their birthday!
I think there’s a difference between a treat for her birthday and getting her nails and toes done everyday. I remember at her age and YOUNGER wanting to have my nails done because my grandmother had her nails done – and she DID them for me – and I thought it was the most fabulous thing! And if Sarah asks me to do her nails every once in a while, or play salon with her, I totally will. Taking her for a mani/pedi every week – not until she can pay for it herself!
I don’t think that kind of pampering is teaching girl’s the wrong thing. Heck, it’s her birthday and she deserves something really special.
Ok it’s not like you’re going all Toddlers & Tiaras or anything! I have put some very pale lip gloss on The Diva and done her nails. She likes it. She’s a girly Tomboy.
It’s bonding time. You are not doing hair extensions, spray tans and bridges to hide missing teeth. Nor are you doing full pageant make-up/hair or putting her in a thong!!
It’s some nail polish for God’s sake!!