Charlotte is a girly girl when it comes to hair, makeup, nails, and dresses. She is however quite the boy when it comes to playing. Hot Wheels GALORE in this house and we all know she has a thing for frogs.
You can say I have the best of both worlds complete with the 3 chin stitches.
Now because her birthday is just a month off of Christmas, to say she needs no new toys is an understatement. In fact, she needs no new ANYTHING.
I was telling my DH I should take her to the salon and let her get a pedi and mani complete with some nail polish. Its something she has never done outside of playtime at home and sounds like a cool idea. At least in my head.
Sorta a mom/daughter day out. I think she would find it very special.
Then I open my email today and it has this in it…call it some great Cosmic Sign of Bad Parenting:
Tyra Show is looking for moms with kids ages 5-13 who think pampering children teaches the wrong message. Do you feel that children should not be getting manicures, pedicures, or spa treatments at a young age? Do you feel that pampering teaches them you need to be “beautified” to feel beautiful? If you are a mother AGAINST pampering, please respond ASAP – the show is next week!
Aside from the irony of The Tyra Show tackling this topic, instantly I’m like…am I bad mom? I didn’t even consider she was “too young” to go to the spa.
I was thinking it would be FUN, not damaging her psyche.
But then I started to wonder..what the hell is wrong with being beautiful? I think Charlotte is beautiful. I want her to know she is beautiful. Don’t we call that confidence? I tell her she is beautiful every day. So now if we get our nails painted we cant be smart too?
I am sure I am over thinking this.
Which probably means I’m ugly.
~Trisha
Been thinking about the makeup thing for young girls question myself lately.
I do not think a mani/pedi as a special day with Mom is inappropriate for her age.
I bit my nails as a child and never did my own nails until I was a teenager.
I didn’t stop biting my nails until my first mani in my late 20s.
I may be a bit partial in thinking that Charlotte is, one of two, almost five year olds that are absolutely gorgeous and do not need anything to make them more precious…but, as her Nana, I feel there is absolutely nothing (ZERO) wrong with her getting a pedicure and manicure! It will probably be one the most fun and memorable days of her life. To tell you the truth I cannot wait til she asks to go with me. For people that think there is something wrong with this, just don’t take your five year old and don’t worry about the ones that are having a fun day with their parent….
I see no reason for it being wrong to do. When my daughter gets older (she is two right now), I would love to indulge in a spa treatment/session with her!
I get my nails done ever other Friday like clockwork, and my oldest (now 10, but started at LEAST 5 years ago) often goes with me as well for the full mani/pedi. She loves it and I have taught her manners and etiquette while there. Frankly, if thats the WORST thing that she has to endure, I think I’m doing pretty darn good.
Wow. When I first read the beginning of this post, my daughter who is turning 3 on the 20th, I thought- WOW! That would be so much fun to do as a once in a while thing! Especially for her birthday! She’s girly (not like me at all) but does LOVE to play with “boy” toys. So, am I a bad mom for THINKING about it at 3?!?!
I really can’t stand the Tyra show…whatever she says must be wrong. You’re fine.
I do not see a problem with it at all. Now if you were talking pageant type treatment then that is a problem in my opinion. But a manicure or pedicure every once in a while is cool. Nice time spent together just mom and daughter. Hope you two have fun!
Absolutely not! I mean if you were going and getting real fake nails, extensions, and full make up that would be different. I have taken Bella to the Bibbidi Boppity Boutique at Disney several times where she gets done up as a princess. As long as it’s a special and not overdone it makes a girl feel pretty!
Kas
Trisha! It’s not like you’re requiring her to go to the spa daily for a mani/pedi and telling her that it’s the only way she can be beautiful!
I think taking a little girl for an occasional mini mani/pedi is fine – a special thing to do once in awhile, just for fun. As long as you are not instilling in her that it MUST be done on a routine basis to maintain beauty – because I don’t think little girls ought to be concentrating on outward appearances to that degree.
I know my youngest (who is now 9) loves to get a pedi, because she knows it only happens once in a blue moon and therefore, it’s a special treat and it’s fun. She likes to be a girly-girl every once in awhile.
I’ve taken my oldest when she was about Charlotte’s age. It was for a wedding so it’s not like she’s going every week. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with taking her there! I don’t really get the Tyra thing though. It’s ok to paint their nails at home but not at a spa? Either way they’re ‘beautifying’ themselves, right? And I agree, I think teaching girls from an early age that they are beautiful will only help increase their self esteem while they’re young. They can be beautiful, smart and independent later on in life. Going to a spa isn’t going to change that.
I will be honest I dont give a shit what anyone else thinks when it comes to me raising my daughter. My daughter is 8 and I let her wear make up out to the store. Big fricken deal, shes not looking like a hoe hoe. So I see nothing wrong with it. My daughter eats it up when others tell her shes beautiful. I see nothing wrong in you taking your daughter to have some mommy daughter time.
I did this for my 5 year old daughter for her pre-school graduation. I thought it would be fun. We were celebrating something and I was going to the salon, so why not make her feel pampered too…I mean after all, this was preschool graduation, mind you
My mother in law thought she was spoiled rotten and had plenty to say about it…but in the end, guess what? She’s my daughter and I’m a good mom and if I think letting her get her nails and toes painted for a special occasion is ok…then it is! Screw what everyone else thinks!
I think there’s a difference between doing it for a special occasion like her birthday and doing it every week. I have a feeling the show is targeting the moms who take their child(ren) on a regular basis.
Most little girl’s love playing dress up. Getting her hair and nails done is not going to DAMAGE her for the rest or her life, nor is it going to affect her self esteem.
Oh, and Tyra’s an ass. I keep watching “The Soup” and they’ve been replaying the episode where she said that she was texting while driving and almost ran into a MOUNTAIN. Then she seriously says “What if that was a person?” Um Tyra – first of all, stay off the road if you’re almost hitting a mountain. Secondly, how many people do you know that are as big as mountains?
I don’t see any harm in that.. I think she’s referring more to the pageant type.
You gotta be kidding me. I have boys – so no spa days for me. But my sister does the Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique with my niece – hair, make-up, the works. It’s AWESOME. My niece is THRILLED. My sister LOVES it. What is it teaching them? That they are all princesses and all deserve to be treated to something nice. I am not saying to do it every week, but for bonding or fun – go for it. I am sure it will mean the world to her.
I see little girls at school all the time that are getting their nails done. It’s fun. It’s not like you are going all beauty pageant on her.
Wow. I am so glad I don’t have girls. lol
I think having a salon day sounds like fun, too. I think there is a difference between having a fun day and obsessing about it. You are not turning her into a pageant queen or anything just getting some pink polish.
I really dont think that you are doing anything bad, My daughter and I love getting our toes done. Take her and enjoy your girls day,
I would find it very weird if you were taking her in weekly but a special birthday treat…no, that’s not over-pampering in my book.