I have been enjoying the fun little volleyball game in the blogosphere recently. Mainly because this time, I didn’t start it. If you have missed it, it goes something like this:

NonReview/Giveaway Blogger #1:  You’re fooling me with your fake blogs on products. You don’t put out real content like those of us that talk about our baby poop and crappy husbands and spread our opinions on something real.

Review/Giveaway Blogger to Blogger #1:  Don’t read it then and suck on this egg I got from Egglands Best.

NonReview/Giveaway Blogger #2: You’re ruining the blogosphere with your fake, sticky-sweet positive free product content.

Review/Giveaway Blogger #2: I’m going to mow you down with my John Deere mower and then use a Hefty bag to take you out like the trash you are!

I’m going to let you in on a little known secret:

Women actually can’t stand each other.

No, really. They can’t. I bet if you’re a woman, you can still think of an ex-B.F.F. right now and every terribly mean thing she did to you all the way back to the 1st grade. Don’t lie to me, I know you can. Women don’t wear makeup or clothes for their husbands, they dress up when they leave the house solely in hopes that other women won’t judge them (as harshly). I’m willing to even wager that blog templates came from women feeling competitive to have a nicer blog then the one they just left.

Economy at its finest.

Women LIKE to judge. I am not sure if its genetically or society breed into us, but it’s nature to constantly nitpick and nag, and once Al Gore invented the Internet, it put women behind computers and gave them a way to interact-and therefore be awesomely different.

And argumentative.

And mean.

Almost like some sick little dream come true that all the silent judging could now be spread anonymously to someones email box. Or eBay account. Or ooh…Blogs have audiences. Let’s go with Blog!

I was reading this well written article yesterday (by the lovely Jennifer James) about mom bloggers just getting along, possibly (although I am unsure) a reaction from this post by Suburban Turmoil and I am here to play devils advocate. Don’t be shocked.

I don’t think it’s necessary to all get along.

In fact, I think it’s impossible. Without controversy, difference of opinion, people to rock the boat and challenge the system, what is the exact point of being an individual? In being a blogger? In a way, our differences unite us and help us find those that are like us.

Could you imagine people as one big happy family. Truly? How utterly boring. Vomit. Blech.

Now before you get your panties in a bunch, I’m not saying its OK to be a complete  bitch every day.  And no, I don’t condone making up fake accounts to be a bully, but I also don’t think sit necessary to always be a community of one. And I really think its OK to express when you disagree with something going on; I’m a fan of that whole freedom of speech crap and all that.  In real life I don’t get along with, or even know, all my neighbors. Even in families you won’t like (or love) everyone equally…surely someone here has that weird uncle or that crazy aunt that you don’t want to spend time with.

Its pretty hard to expect that online life will be hunky dory just because we all call ourselves mothers that share the same blogging hobby and therefore we must have some common ingredient to get along. We don’t. In fact, being a parent almost makes us more likely to NOT get along. We have added that to a public platform to put out our opinions. We are going to be very stuck in how we do things, how we parent, how our finances are, how we want to raise our kids, it makes us defensive, and aggressive, and reactive, and judgmental.

Sprinkle in some text and tone that are impossible to detect, twitter, facebook, email, myspace, an iPhone, and a few buddies to back up your opinion, and it’s a recipe for ‘The Perfect Storm’.

If you are just damn lucky enough to find a small group of women to hang out with everyday and they are just damn lucky enough to get to know you on a personal level and you all collectively can keep from truly arguing  or gossiping about each other for any length of time, its a pretty big accomplishment.

I mean HUGE accomplishment. Possibly colossal.

What I would like to see come out of all this is not a big argue fest (as much as I enjoy sticking my thirty-five cents in the middle of it) but more of an attitude of… “I guess that’s not a chick I would hang out with cause now I know we would not make good friends”. Blogs are pretty cool if you think about it. You get to prescreen someones thoughts first and decide if they are worth your time. Maybe we needed blogs back in grade school and there wouldn’t be all these ex-B.F.F.s floating around. I would have known that she was a backstabbing, boyfriend stealing……..er……..sorry, got off track.

Arguing with strangers is good for the soul. So you don’t kill your husband. Or your kids.

Blog arguing could be saving America’s families!

Besides, you are also more than welcome to join the MomDot community forum if you’re a blogger that needs a friend, but please note that we will have to jump you in, we use the Cast system, and will kick you out if you suck.

Just kidding.

~Trisha

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