Sometimes change starts within yourself
Lately I have been feeling a slave to my blog, a slave to my email, and a slave for the next project. While I love to develop ideas, I haven’t felt satisfied by being bogged down with ‘uniques’ and ‘page views’ and hyperventilating when the Google Gods giveth and taketh away page ‘ranks’.
And while the few moments my blog carved a niche in technorati made me smile, it inevitably made someone else doubt their own self worth, blog, or site.
Isn’t that how it always is?
To have success means someone else is feeling like a failure. Someone else is judging their self worth off of what they see here. It makes me pause. It makes me sad. The more I meet and get to know women online, the more I want to be side by side of them, not in front.
Tonight I took the stats off my blog. I deactivated the statcounter on wordpress and removed them off the main pages.
I will no longer judge myself wondering if 2000, or 200, or 2 people showed up and pour over what they read and how they got here. I will no longer check the keywords and the SEO and stress myself over what really doesn’t matter.
Because, truly, it doesn’t.
If my words, my articles, my ideas cannot speak for what I can give, then a partnership simply wont be worth it.
From July 23rd, 2008 till now, this many incredible people have visited the blog:
I have been amazingly blessed by numbers. But now I want to be blessed in relationships, community, and friendships.
I hope you continue to visit, to be a part of, and to grow, although I wont know our growth, inside my world- however strange and bizarre those days may be at points.
I can no longer fail, since I can only judge my successes by living in the moment.
And this moment sure feels the best of all…
~Trisha
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25 Comments
What a great way to live…without fear and courageously! Congrats!
Congrats. I have gotten a bit better at not looking at my statcounter as much. I still have to keep it for the keyword searches cuz, WOW, there are some weird people! But I’m never gonna be an it girl on the blog scene, no use wasting energy trying in vain. I like my core followers and really you can only keep close relationships with so many people. Better quality friendships over quantity of readers, right?
celebrate your success (however you choose to measure it). people should feel inspired by what you’ve accomplished, not feel like failures because they haven’t achieved as much. the site redesign is awesome btw.
It sounds like a great philosophy!!!
Great numbers! I so here you about stats tough. Success can not be judged by numbers alone. There will be times where things are slow and things are fast and if you sweat over the little things then your blog will suffer. You will succeed with or with out stats. I commend you Trisha! We should all follow your lead.
Bravo! I don’t know if I can be that brave and completely take them off, but I’ll think about it. I haven’t been checking them that much anyway.
Soccer Moms have become the new Blogger Moms. You have no worries about an audience they will be here!
I think even without stats your site will grow, you’re just that type of person. You don’t need a stat to stand by… you’re Trisha! Star mom blogger! Other mom bloggers shouldn’t be sad, they should be happy that mom’s can hold such influence in this world!
Ah the numbers have made me crazy, I think all of us bloggy Moms can agree on that.
Love your blog and the community you have done an amazing job!
I LOVE CRACKDOT!!!
You are again, a pioneer! You go mama!
Sometimes I wish I had never discovered stat counters.
I admire your ability to take them off. I know it wasn’t easy.
Momdot is established. You have a great big following here. You’ve put so much hard work into this site and I don’t think you’ll ever have to worry about attracting an audience.
The fantastic community you have created here speaks volumes about YOU! that’s what matters!
Truer words about blogging were never spoken. We should all be doing this for the love of connecting with others-and you’ve created a great place for people to connect. That means far more than the stats ever will.
Thanks.
I don’t look at all. I just cannot. It would drive me insane. Good for you!
Wow, you never fail to amaze me!
Wow, I don’t know if I could do that. Not because of the numbers, but I like to see where people are coming from, and return the favor sometimes.
I’m glad you are finding joy in what you do again. That is all that matters.
That was really nicely said. You know you are a successful woman and nothing should bring you down about that. I think its wonderful that you decided not to judge your success by stats. People will still come and visit and Momdot will continue to grow as long as you are blogging.
This was a great post and gives us all something to think about.
CrackDot RULES!!!
But if you get rid of stat counter, how are you going to be able to hunt down all the anonymous douchebag commenters? LOL
You are right, you know.
Trisha, I commend you for following your heart and for taking your site where YOU want it to go. I’ll of course, continue to visit you. Now you just won’t know if I’m visiting you at 2 a.m. in the morning
That was an excellent post! I sometimes catch myself refreshing to see how many unique visitors I had that day. Your right, it doesn’t matter!
Nicely said Trisha. I think you have so much to be proud of and I totally know what you mean about being a slave to your next project.
I also think it’s true when you said other bloggers may doubt their worth or think their rank or stats aren’t as good, but I also think you deserve your moment. I can think of so many selfless things you have done, all to help other bloggers achieve. Thanks.
Just like you, I stopped checking my stats and info. I’m really writing for me! I put it down and leave it behind. If someone happens to read it and leaves me a comment that is a great feeling. I use comments as a learning process to open my mind to the way others see things.
Sometimes I wonder if our minds are connected. Enough said.
Beautiful. Simply beautiful! I can’t believe it’s coming up on a year. Amazing year it’s been.
Holy cow…those are some high numbers! You won’t have to worry about stats because we’re all always here at MomDot…er CrackDot!
Good luck….it would drive me bonkers to not know my stats..even though mine suck! lol