Comments on: Stay at home Mom vs. Working Mom vs. Me?

By: Misha Cherry

Misha Cherry — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 23:12:49 +0000

Well, I have worked and stayed home…. I believe there both work. But, working at home is much harder for me. Working outside the home is like an escape for me and some sort of social life. Now I don’t have one. Miss It! Love my kids and husband but I find myself Lazy at home. I have to stay home because of brain surgery and seizures. Also, I know mothers that work that but off at home as I sit and mope…. I need a life?!

By: Trisha-admin

Trisha-admin — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 16:48:08 +0000

Different….crazy….same thing, right?

By: Nikki @ Blasian Baby

Nikki @ Blasian Baby — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 23:16:18 +0000

Since I am a working mom that use to be a stay at home mom that use to be a working from home non-mom I think I can add a few cents to this convo.

How true it is that it’s all work! No way is the grass easier on any of the different sides. Each women/mom works differently so to say it’s wrong for going to work, staying home, or working from home…well that’s just wrong. Gosh why can’t people just let other people live and have a cup of baileys in the morning =)

By: Mammakaze

Mammakaze — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 18:47:16 +0000

I hear you! I have been a work at home mom since my daughter was born 7 years ago. And lemme tell you…it’s HARD! In the beginning I had the delusion that I could just come home after giving birth and put my gurgling cooing infant in a basinette next to the computer while I workd. WRONG! No one tells you that infant needs SO MUCH ATTENTION! I hardly got any work done that first few months. When she got on a regualr nap schedule, I’d work during her naps. But then she gave up her nap at 18 months. I CRIED. But I adjusted. I started getting up at 3 in the morning to work before she and my husband got up. (I can’t work at night, I’m done by then). Well, that put a crimp in my marriage as I was asleep by the time my husband got home. Preschool gave 3 mornings a week for three hours. Kindergarten gave me 5 mornings a week for 3 1/2 hours. 1st and 2nd grade have finally given me 6 hours a day five days a week. But there are still summers. Those long, long summers. And forget socializing with adult uman beings. Or going out to lunches! And I want to know what water cooler conversation means! Still, I love the fact that I can wear my ratty slippers to work. Or get up and walk into the other room and kiss my kid on a whim. With perks like that, who needs expense accounts?

Toni
http://www.mammakaze.com

By: Amy - Mom Spark & Mom Made That!

Amy - Mom Spark & Mom Made That! — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 12:33:15 +0000

Trisha, I am in the same boat, and have been for years. Before blogging, I had an eBay business that I did from home. It is really hard to be mom and run a successful business from home, but I love it. Like you, there are not many moms in my situation, but isn’t it good to be different?

By: Qtpies7

Qtpies7 — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 21:22:55 +0000

I don’t have a problem with moms who work or don’t work or work from home. I have a problem with the opinionated attitudes. Like mom’s don’t use their brains when they stay at home. I’ve gone to work, and I can tell you I use my brains at home quite a bit, thank you very much, lol. I hated working, I hated not being there to keep the kids in line or to love them up.

By: Trisha-admin

Trisha-admin — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 20:27:08 +0000

speak for yourself. I eat bon bons all day. LOL

By: littlepurpleroom

littlepurpleroom — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 05:05:34 +0000

I’ve worked outside the home when my kiddo’s were young and I’ve stayed home when they were young.

They saw a mom who would have loved to be with them most minutes of the day, but did at the time, what was right at the time.
They have grown into a couple of A-one humans who are responsible and would do the same thing. We cannot control what happens around us a lot of the time, but we can control our behavior.
And if timing dictates that you have to go out there and be away and get that pay…well, it is a lesson to the children that not everything can be one way all the time. We make sacrifices. Bottom line is we should all support each other and our choices. it’s hard enough just getting through a day anymore no matter what you pull out of your hat.
If you can be at home, then be at home. It does hurt to miss the growing up stuff. But if you need to work, for whatever reason, don’t feel guilty. Just make the time you are together as special as you can.

In a perfect world, we could all just lay around eating jelly beans and pooping rainbows but we just don’t live in that world…darn it.

By: erin

erin — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 02:39:36 +0000

Awww. My mom is a WAHM. It is HARD. Especially since she worked for her husband. She was “office manager”. He was out on the field. But she had to deal with his clients, employees and the kids. Payroll, ensuring files were in order, marketing, communications ….

I did envy her when she got to work from home and I worked from an office though – with my child being cared for by my gma. But I think she envied me once I got to stay home full time (not work from home)with the kids.

But no matter what – we respect each others decisions and lifestyles and the choices we make.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 18:55:48 +0000

I have nothing clever to say other than, what a wonderfully written post!