It’s true that no matter where I am online, health and weight are part of the discussion. Well, more-so weight but I assume health because it boils down that way in the end. Additionally the discussions on organic, learning to read food labels, processed foods, and pesticides are consistently prevalent no matter where I search or what I read. It could be the company I keep, but I also think it just may be the sign of the times.
McDonalds is out, driving to the farm to pick your own apples, in.
Straight up, I don’t care what you eat or what you feed your kids. Formula or breast, apples or chips, outside of my own home, at the end of the day, combined with personal knowledge and budget, I am sure most people do what they can to provide a balanced meal and a life laced with a few goodies. I have very few friends that are ONLY organic and very few friends that are total advocates for eating what you want, when you want.
Now weight has never been a huge discussion in my life.
While genetically my extended family has often ended up under the knife to lose pounds, I have been relatively blessed with a decent height/weight proportion my whole life. However, after having my second child, Phoenyx, my weight wasn’t something that has just shed off. I had a C-section combined with a tubal ligation and it has dramatically altered my body shape and skin and I have focused some of my energy into trying to get back to more slender figure.
Simply put, it has been a discussion in my house between my spouse and I for months.
All of that said, my reason for writing doesn’t have anything to do with weight or health or how you lose it or how you don’t. It’s how do you deal with your kids hearing you talk about exercise, food, and weight. I have a 7 year old and she is smart as a whip. When you think she isn’t listening, when you think she is in the other room, her bionic ears are soaking up everything you say. While my spouse and I discuss calories and weight loss, C section scars and stretched out skin, no matter how harmless or constructive we are talking, she is listening.
Which you think is fine.
Until recently when she started asking me about the calories on the back of drink bottles and has made references to being “skinny”. I can see her brain ticking about food.
It has made me pause.
Is this something I really want her thinking about? Talking about? Calories?
No. Not at all.
Growing up the only reference I can remember to food is my dad saying that grandma let me eat too many cookies. It was simply ‘dinner time’ and ‘go out to play’. That was the end of food and exercise.
I have decided that I have to make a change.
I had to put away the scale. I deleted my weight loss apps. I took out the bookmarks of my food tracking devices. I filed the calorie discussions.
My daughters behaviors will simply come from her watching me. Her self esteem will mirror mine.
I do not want her relating being healthy to how much she consumes or what foods she puts in her body on a daily basis. I don’t want her counting calories or tracking her food or measuring it. I don’t want her doing it at 7 any more than doing it at 27.
For those of you losing weight or watching what you eat, how do you make sure your kids are not taking the negative side of it and considering their own weight more than they should?