Last night we had an “incident”.
I just want to say this parenting thing…it’s hard. There is no cut and dry response, you do what you can, when you can and you hope that at the end your kids are alive and happy. If you follow my Facebook page you may know that my daughters school recently started allowing tablets at school.
Yay* (dripping with sarcasm).
They basically sent home a note approving tablets and encouraging every kid to get one for the class as they are going to be teaching on them. Now in Charlotte’s mind no problem. Our house is a techy one…we have ipads and iphones and all that jazz. But I honestly do not want to send them to SCHOOL. She sits at the bus with high schoolers and we think it could make her a target for theft or even get hurt if someone knows that she has a tablet in her bag.
And the school requires they go back home to be charged, so it’s not something we can just get her and leave in her classroom.
Basically Chris and I said no. Not no, but HELL no.
Originally she accepted our reasoning but now she is unhappy. They had “tablet” day yesterday and she is fully convinced she is one of the only kids that did not bring one.
And last night she told us that we are not giving her a “chance” to prove to us that she is responsible and that we treat her like a “little kid”.
She may be right. She is 9. She is pretty responsible. She listens. She babysits her brother. She is overall patient. She gets good grades. She needs just a tad bit too much reminding about taking a bath, unloading the dishwasher and going to the bus stop, but she is a good kid.
And I may be looking at her still as a little girl when she is actually growing up….
“How will you know if you dont give me a chance.”
Its not that we expect something to happen to her, but we are trying to PREVENT something happening to her, the tablet, the whole situation. And it’s wrong on our part. We should allow her to make mistakes…or not make them.
I guess this is part of growing up for us as parents. And it’s hard.