I don’t have a picture to put up right now. I’m thinking about it. Honestly, I’m still sad. I’m not looking for sympathy or empathy.
updated video- I am not so wordless today. (hit sound button for sound, it does not start automatically)
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You all have really warmed my heart and tolerated my tirade yesterday, but I woke up and I just have this feeling of ‘what did i do?”. Maybe I should have let her have one more day at home to snuggle. I just think I did the wrong thing. We felt so devastated by the news at that moment. We should have never made that decision at that time. It was too permanent. The sad part is that my dad talked to me before and said be sure what you do, you cannot take it back. He told me that he put a pet to sleep and regretted it every day since. She was still loving us and she has been living with it for months and months. I was her mother. I failed her the last minute of her life by not letting her be with our family one more day. To hang outside in the sun, to eat a meal, to sleep on the bed and be with us. I don’t think Ill ever forgive myself. My dad was right. Figures.
~Trisha
BIG BIG BIG HUGS! It’s hard to do that.
I am so sorry for your loss Trisha! I love my own animals just as much as my babies. I really hope you can find peace with your decision. You will have always wanted just one more day with her.
I’m so sorry for your loss
I hope you feel better soon Trisha
Trisha, That broke my heart, you are being hard on yourself. Thing of the pain you saved the cat. That can’t body was shutting down, you spared her that much more pain. I know this is hard, we had to do it once, and we let some people talk us into keeping the animal alive, she was in pain the whole time, she had no dignity. She wouldn’t get out of bed because she was in so much pain.
My little two year old was saying hug hug, she wanted to give you a hug to make you feel better and that brought tears to my eyes. Our love goes out to you!!!
I am so sorry. It seems like you did the best you could in the emotional state and with the info. you had at the time.
I’m so sorry. Your other cat is adorable as though she felt your pain. Take the time you need.
(((hugs))) You did so much for that coat by giving it a loving home where she was taken care of and couldn’t have had a better life. Much love and hugs to you!
I am so sorry for your loss. I put my dear kitty Sassy down about 2 years ago and still feel really sad about it. She was also in very poor shape, and we had to let her go. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. She was my “baby” before my babies. Don’t be hard on yourself. Your kitty had a good life and knew you loved her. That’s what’s most important and she lives on in your memory forever. My family gave me a yellow rose bush to memorilize my kitty, so I get to see that everyday and smile and think of her. Take care…..
OMG, you are going to make me start crying about our dog and our cat that we had to put to sleep in 2007 and 2008. I know you feel horrible, but you don’t know how much physical suffering she could have been experiencing. That was what helped me through when we were faced with the decision. Would it have been right to let her go on for a whole other day if she was really uncomfortable? Nobody knows.
For our cat we brought her favorite toy and put it next to her and the vet let us take our time to say goodbye . . . hold her and pet her and made sure she knew she was loved. And then when we were ready we both stayed with her. We did the same thing for our little Chihuahua, except we brought his favorite bed in.
I am fully in tears now. I just hope you can come to terms with the decision you ultimately made and realize that it is a possibility that you may have done the right thing just because you don’t know how poorly she was feeling. (((BIG HUGS)))
I think you made the right choice…for her. I know it’s tough and you will probably always wonder. Glad she was able to bring so much love to your family.
I am so sorry about Kitty. HUGS to you and your family.
Trisha, just wanted to tell you how sorry I am. Hope you’re able to take some comfort from all your friends that clearly care about you!
My sympathies. I know that was a hard decision but you made the right one and you will start to feel better about it. Just think about the good memories now and not the end.
It is a hard decision, but she was probably in a lot of pain. Now she is not. So you helped her escape that pain. I’m sure you miss her, but I bet she knows that you cared deeply for her. I don’t think she would be mad at you.
Aww, Trisha, you brought a tear to my eye. You did the right thing. If today would have been the day, you still would’ve wanted one MORE day, KWIM? I’ll be thinking of you…
We had to put our dog down last fall and even though she was so sick and old, we still felt terrible. I think it’s only normal to feel this way, no matter when you make the decision. Please try and stop being so hard on yourself. (((HUGS)))
I’m so so so sorry!! That is a hard thing but you know your kitty more than anyone and I think that you did the right thing by not having her suffer anymore or it get worse and Charlotte have to see that. It will get better…{{{Hugs}}}
Sending many hugs your way. I’m so sorry.
When I had to make a choice about my dog the vet told me that he was suffering, he wasn’t going to get better, and to keep him longer was selfish of me because he would only suffer more.. it’s been 13 years, and even though it still hurts, I know she was right.