Just dont call me a mommy blogger, please. Man, I cant wait to get my chi. I am really loving how my hair is looking longer, but it needs to straighten out more. Its so………..southern right now. I am so sorry about the blog party. Mr. linky IS looking into it. Man, this goes down as the craziest blog party in history. Linky down, hosting goes down for a DAY….i would say its a success! Wanted to add a video to my post….
~Trisha
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I am so so sick of the web community being catty and rude. Let me set the record straight:
1) I do not create blogs to compete with YOU. I am college educated, I have run quite a few sites over many , many years, and I know a ton of things about the web. I create content for the users that come HERE to enjoy it. If you don’t want to read it, don’t read it. But please don’t imply or insinuate that I did it to detract from some blog you did. There are 17 million blogs out there. I go to like 20 of them on a regular basis. So for the other 16,999,980 I didnt make it to today, maybe you should check my site first. I don’t have time to check EVERY post before I write. There are only SO many blogs people right before ideas show up in the same place over and over again. I am sorry if I had the same “top 10 crappy cartoons” as someone else.
2) I do not hosts contests to compete with YOU. I dont hold live contests, or use the same sponsors, to “get” at your blog. I host the contests of the ones that contact us or Alicia sets us up with. I mean, this isnt Oprah people.
3) I do not care who you are, unless your being NICE. If you twitter, blog about, myspace, facebook or more about someone you have never met in your life, its really weird and lame. I have girls on my forum right now that are getting hate email from people online. Does that make sense to anyone? Hate email? And if we totally show up in the same dress to prom, I’m going to die.
4) Don’t come here if you are going to pretend your Gods gift to the blogging world (unless your perez) and get mad at someone, that you DON’T EVEN KNOW. Its called a hater. Its not becoming on anyone. Isnt the whole point to network with people? The only people that like people that talk crap, are people talking crap.
5) Stop sending anonymous comments and emails…for one, they are not really anonymous because your IP shows who you are, two, it makes you look like an ass that you have that much time, and three if you have something to say and cant say it under your name, then you probably shouldn’t be saying it. And no, i wont be approving nastiness on MY blog.
6) stop ganging up with people. If you have an opinion, handle it like an adult and go to that person. The web is not some huge place where you can just say…oh, that person is terrible..maybe look at the person gossiping or talking, its not right, its not going to be on our site, and I’m embarrassed for those that are a part of it.
7) I am not some motrin mom person. Say it with me people, RUMOUR. Was i confused w/ someone who hides behind what i have to say? I already put up my opinion..with my NAME, Why would i reblog it anonymously? Hello.
8 ) I took down the Wii vote thing. Its a VIDEO GAMING SYSTEM. Its not a big deal at ALL. Its like a $200 prize I can buy at walmart. Its not a million dollars. I wanted to be a part of a contest on a bloggers site for FUN. But if that contest is making people be THIS rude, there is too much PMS going around. I wont be voting for anyone and i wont be sending people to it either. I mean, really REALLY think about it. Was it worth isolating someone online over a contest? Did it make people feel good to be mean? I bet the blogger that is running the contest would have appreciated the traffic and the fun of it. Maybe I wasn’t part of the “clique” that was competing with “eachother”. I think i missed the memo on signing up to be cool first. Sooooo sorry.
9) I cannot believe moms are SO competitive and nasty, that they gang up with each other to hurt other people. You don’t see me ganging up on people here or on twitter. I am trying to have a good time by running a site online, sometimes i play along, sometimes i run the contests, but why would someone try to bring me down for entering? I see bloggers ALL DAY offer “win this if you vote for me” online. ALL . DAY.
10) if you don’t like me, stop coming here. Or rather, don’t stop coming here…my advertisers like it.
~Trisha
I saw some of the controversy on Twitter and totally didn’t get it at all. If I were having a “popularity contest” I would assume that entrants would do what they had to do to win and that they would find innovative ways to get votes. I also wouldn’t care two bits what they did with the prize once it was won. Either way I’d be getting traffic and I’d still be awarding the prize and it would still be fun–maybe even more fun–so who cares??
Of course, that’s just my opinion, and one that the original contest holder may not share. But if she’s got a problem with the way you entered the contest, it seems like the kind of thing that could be handled between two people–you and she. Why anyone else felt the need to get involved is beyond me.
Y’know…I was thinking about entering that Wii contest thing. Got distracted, and now I’m glad that I didn’t.
I’m so sorry that you’ve been getting so much hate on something that’s supposed to be fun. I am getting kind of tired on the whole “vote for me and get $$$”. I entered one “contest” from a blog that I subscribe to, but this was at like…10am in the morning before the madness started. I actually had to close twitter at one point because ALL the tweets were about this madness. It’s ridiculous that there’s a hashtag for it.
And you have a very good point…it’s not a gazillion dollars. You can buy it everywhere. So it’s not exactly pocket change, but it’s not something essential to your survival either…so I don’t see why people are whipping out the claws for it. Especially when we’re talking about moms. I might be able to understand if it was a bunch of 8 year old boys, but okay…whatever. I’m living under a rock. Maybe the world changed.
Oh my…I think you guys rock! I had a “nasty” comment made about blog a while back becasue I posted about a contest someone else was having…I felt like I was back in High School. Women can be so caddy! Sorry if you feelings were hurt.
I missed it… but I hope everything calms down soon for you.
Oh Man Trisha!!! I can’t believe you still have to deal with all this shit!! But if people have nothing better to do than talk about you, then i really feel sorry for them! They should be more worried about what their kids are doing!! I LOVE YOU AND MOMDOT!!!! Let the haters hate, you know who’s real!!
I don’t understand any of this. I hope things get better. The blogosphere is a big place. There is room for all of us.
I think you played the game with good intentions. When I read it, it seemed like you could do anything you want to win. So it wasn’t even a bribe. You were trying to win it to give to a MomDot reader. It was a nice gesture, not a bribe.
I’m sorry you took yourself out of the running.
To change your luck, you can always enter the Poingo competition at Three Peas in a Pod.
And, side note, I think people are just jealous that MomDot has quickly become a hot blogging community. And if they keep acting like that, no wonder moms choose MomDot as their go-to forum for blogging advice. And it’s the number one place I refer new mom bloggers.
Trish I totally agree with you. I got a nasty email or 2 as well. Totally uncalled for. I want votes yes but not at the expense of others. What is so funny is that you can vote for more than one person. Why so competive? I walked into this thing blind. So consider me hit in the head lol. I am sad that everyone can not get along and there are those that feel attacking some one over plastic is acceptable. I did not do anthing towards any one but it makes me feel the need to apologize to those who have been hurt (looking in the mirror while saying this lol).
I think people tend to forget that blogging is supposed to be fun. I think of things I’ve seen lately and I am very sad for the example that we are setting for our kids.
not sure what i missed but sorry you are having to endure silly bloggers.
Why can’t we all just AGREE TO DISAGREE!?!?!?! I really don’t care how you all decide to parent. Momdot has been the one place we can all come regardless of what kind of mothers we are. It’s a place to hang out! Let’s keep it that! Because drama like this makes Momdot NO FUN and I know this awesome team of Momdot mommas is not busting their asses everyday for us to be dealing with BS like this.
With that said, Trisha and the rest of the team:
For what it’s worth, you make me and many many other moms feel great everytime we come here. Keep up the good work!
Man do I like it under my blogging rock. Sorry you’re getting a bunch of grief, Trisha.
Not sure what I missed…maybe I’m glad I missed it. On a different note: Perez totally rocks!
I am sorry you are having to take all of this hatred Trisha! I think this blog is amazing, and the time I have spent here I have felt nothing but love and welcomed!
Hang in there sweetie, this to shall pass
Trisha I so wanted to just reach through my computer and give you a huge hug. I was so surprised with the turn of events. It reminded me of high school. I’ve always admired you and the MomDot team and the contributions to the mom community. You didn’t deserve this treatment by any means.
Lucretia, i wasn’t promising, i do give things away. It was just for FUN. No worse or better then someone offering $25 gift cards to get votes…and i see that going on. I was just participating for FUN. I think people are being silly that i said i would give it back out..i was going to. WOuldnt it be my prize to give out? The contest said to get votes, tell everyone…i was.
I am just up to HERE about being talked about. I constantly get blogged about, everything i do is under a microscope, and 99.9% of it has nothing to do with what I am about.
That being said, I appreciate your comment.
take care,
trisha
I’m sorry that you think I was being “nasty” – I don’t know what the rest of this is about, but I do know that I a) put my name on what I commented, b) put my email address on it, c) stand behind what I said, if not how I said it.
That I said it heatedly I won’t deny. I couldn’t believe how upset seeing that post made me feel. That doesn’t excuse it if I came across as mean or nasty.
If I did? I apologize.
I have no idea what the rest of this refers to. I only saw the WII post and that’s the only thing I can comment toward. It’s the only thing I *did* comment toward.
I will always put my name on something like that. You may not agree with what I have to say any more than I did what you had to say, but it holds absolutely NO weight anonymously.
I still believe how you handled it was wrong. You want to win the contest then give it away, fine. You want to bribe people to vote for you on the promise that you will give it away? Another matter.
But that is MY opinion. I am one woman. It shouldn’t be taken as anything other than that.
That said, it seems like you’ve had a rather rough day. I hope it all stops NOW and that you get back to being you and enjoying your community. No, there is nothing worth being “mean” over on the internet… but we all have our good days and our bad days.
What I had to say was just some random woman on the internet – and as such? You should give it about as much weight as that.
G’night and feel better.
Hang in there. I think it was taken the wrong way. I thought it was pretty creative, actually. Don’t take it personally or let it ruin your day.
Trisha, you and the MomDot team have done nothing but be so supportive of the blogging community for as long as you’ve existed, i’m sorry this hit you so hard. It wasn’t fair to you.
All this nastiness makes me really sad. That’s all I’m going to say because the maturity level I’ve seen lately shows that no matter what anyone says it’s going to go in the ear of a 20,30,40something year old and come out the mouth of a 14 year old.