We don’t celebrate Valentines Day around here. I firmly believe its a trumped up holiday to sell cards-and I hate store bought cards. Give me the good old fashioned finger painted on printer paper card that expresses love any day. And its not that I don’t believe in the sanctity of love or the sharing of a relationship.
It really comes down to the fact that I am cheap, would rather pick out my own presents, and have zero need for some reaffirmation of my marriage or love.
So yesterday instead of some ultra-romantic flower exchange and a vow to be each others forever (i mean, after 15 years, whose counting anyway, right?), we ended up at a local restaurant with my sister and her husband while Charlotte and her 5 month younger cousin, ran around on the beach playground.
It was a nice early dinner too, even one I could almost say Valentinesday-esque, until the Mardi Gras revelers in the two tables beside of us, mostly mid 20′s with a few sprinkled teens and a middle aged late ex-stripper mother, decided it was acceptable to throw a dirty rag that landed in the middle of our table on top of my nieces macaroni and cheese plate.
I kid you not that this woman comes over and says she was ‘taking responsibility’ for the rag that was thrown and apologized, but did not offer a new meal for 5 year old Kira…who could no longer eat her rag infested food. Unfortunately the men were up from the table and neither Tashina (my sister) nor I wanted to argue with the too-drunk-to-be-outside group, so we did a few nods and a few “its fine”, as the woman tried to make up for being an ass by helping Charlotte put on her coat.
This is a good time for me to add that I hate when someone without permission touches my child.
Afterwards, I somehow had pawned off my only child to my 8 year younger sister and prayed she would come home alive, but in all fairness, my sister is an excellent mother. We don’t always see eye to eye, but her concern for her own child is real and she pays attention well, so I could only imagine that she would extend that to Charlotte as well.
Atleast that was my mantra for the evening.
Charlotte spent last night at her aunts house and all day today and my dad was off to pick her up, must have been 30 minutes ago now, where she will spend the evening with him.
That is right…2 nights without our child.
Un-freaking-believable.
That means today is our Valentines Day-should we choose to celebrate it. In the romantic being alone sense, right? Chris immediately called in last night and asked for the day off and we slept in till the late day of 9am, did a few hours of needless work for the morning, and then spent the entire day running around town looking at clothes we were not going to buy and having a lunch that didn’t include monitoring a child.
Around 3:30, surprisingly my husband had had enough of our freedom and we came home where he now sits on the X-box killing people and cussing into the headset and I am installing some Music Maker 15 program in my new attempt to be a DJ.
Its weird, this day without Charlotte.
Yep. It surely is.
~Trisha
We don’t do Valentine’s Day either…unless it’s cards from the kids. We don’t even buy stuff for our kids, though other moms have tried to make me feel guilty about it. However, I have 3 kids and I am THRILLED when they are all gone at the same time and I can enjoy the quiet. In fact, this coming Friday my dad and stepmom are taking ALL 3 OF THEM FOR 2 NIGHTS! I am beyond excited. I don’t even know if we will do anything other than sit here and enjoy the quiet. Don’t get me wrong, I will miss them, but I won’t be crying and counting the hours til their return. It has been over a year since we have had even a night with no kids in the house.
We don’t do Valentine’s either. We do tax gift. lol Funny how after you’ve been together so long you just want time to chill when you can.
Kas
I also HATE it when ppl touch my child without asking. I used to grab the offenders hands and squeeze so not gently so they got the hint. LOL. Yeah how odd to have kid free time but miss the kid. I go thru it all the time. Your a good mom
I would have beyond irritated at the whole rag in the food. Seriously?!
And luckies to have alone time…I always feel like part of me is missing without my girls–esp if I drive somewhere alone. Way too quiet then.
Glad you both had fun
LOL I thought for sure you were going to say Chris tried to make have sex in an attempt to get you knocked up.
And I don’t care if the ho was drunk, I still would have told her she needed to pay for your niece’s meal.
This is why some people should not be allowed to procreate or go out in public.
nope, no sex here.
Whoa, back up. Tashina is married and has a child?!? When did she get so old?!????? That just boggles my mind. I’m glad you got to enjoy two nights child-less – it must be nice every once in awhile. BTW, my friend has a great comment for Valentine’s day: If you can’t be good 364 days of the year, one day won’t save your ass. LOL
That line is GENIUS!! I need to make button of it. LOL
We usually just use Valentine’s Day as an excuse to force ourselves to actually try to get a sitter and get out by ourselves. I always feel like I’m missing an appendage when the kids aren’t with us.
we are supposed to have a sitter tomorrow but i doubt its gonna happen.
We had a similar “adults only” day on Saturday. Dropped Violet off at MIL’s, had dinner and too many beers at our favorite place, and slept in til 9am yesterday morning. It’s nice to have those days every once in a while!
And I totally feel the same about Valentine’s Day.
wow, beers and all? In public? You are far more advanced then I am.
I think every holiday is about commercialization. The more money they can make, the better, right? For me, it’s a good excuse to buy my boys a new movie.
Nice to have time without Charlotte, but it sounds like you missed her.
christmas is probably the only holiday i really “get”
I would have been pissed at that lady for the way she was acting and the way she was letting those kids act in the restaurant. Some people have zero manners.
Sounds like you had a good day today though!
yeah, it was bad. I thought my sister and i were very…nice.
I always feel like I forgot something when my kids aren’t around.
and the quiet is eerie isnt it?